How To Talk To Women如何与妇女
By Lisa Sinclair由丽莎辛克莱
I've been approached by my share of men and watched them approach my women friends countless times.我一直在找我的，男性所占比重，看他们的做法我的女性朋友无数次。
No matter how smooth the initial approach may have been a lot of guys just completely blow it as soon as they try to spark up a conversation.不管如何顺利的初步做法可能是很多球员只是完全炸毁，尽快为他们试图引发了交谈。
Now look, women are people too you know.现在看，妇女也是人，你知道。 It isn't so difficult to get a conversation going.不是这样很难得到持续的对话。 And if you want things to go further you're going to have to have a conversation first.如果你想更进一步的事情你将必须有一个谈话第一。 So here's some tips on talking to girls after you have made the initial approach.所以这里的说话，女孩的一些建议后作出的初步做法。
If You're Short On Confidence, Fake It 如果您缺少信任，伪造了
Ok, look at it this way, you've already done the toughest thing of all…..you cracked that ice by actually saying, “Hi”.好吧，在这样看，你已经做了所有最困难的事... ..你破获的冰竟说，“嗨”。 Now it's time to get the ball rolling.现在是时候让球滚动。
You need to have some confidence in yourself and your abilities.你需要有一些自己和能力的信任。 If you can't seem to find any in your shirt pocket, you can find a bit of that smooth charm by just pretending you are loaded with confidence.如果你似乎无法找到你的衬衫口袋里有，你可以找到你只是假装的，平稳的魅力位是信心加载。 Bond it, my confident man, do what James Bond or Brad Pitt would do.邦德它，我很有信心的人，做007布莱德彼特会做。 In other words, fake it, act as though you aren't shaking in your boots.换句话说，假它作为你虽然没有在你的靴子动摇。 It's amazing how you can boost your confidence and success when you令人惊奇的是你可以提高你的自信和成功时，你 approach women方法妇女 by doing a little internal role-playing.这样一个小的内部角色扮演。
Now, I want you to keep this suave and oh-so-cool attitude inside your own mind.现在，我希望您能保住自己的心在你的这个温文尔雅和OH -等，冷静的态度。 Please don't try any Bond moves or Pitt talk on the woman you want to impress.请不要尝试移动或任何债券在女子皮特想要留下深刻印象的谈话。 They read right through this type of behavior.他们阅读的权利，通过这种类型的行为。 You need to be yourself if you really hope to impress some of those dazzling damsels.你需要自己如果你真的希望这些令人眼花缭乱的印象一些援兵。 Just use the internal role you are playing to give yourself a confidence boost.只需使用您的内部发挥作用，以给自己的信心。
What To Say To Get The Conversation Rolling 说什么要获得会话滚动
Wondering about which words to actually say to the lucky girl?想知道哪些话其实说的幸运女孩？ Well, it's common knowledge that people love talking about themselves.嗯，这是众所周知，人们喜欢谈论自己。 Some questions about the lady can get your conversation off on the right track, but these can't be just any questions.对夫人的一些问题可以得到你们的谈话中关闭在正确的轨道，但这些不能只是任何问题。
Start the conversation with something simple and remember to make your question open-ended.开始用一些简单的交谈并记住你的问题，使不限成员名额。 A question that can easily be answered with a simple “yes” or “no” can shut you down quickly.一个可以很容易地用一个简单的“是”或“否”可以关闭你迅速回落回答的问题。 Once you ask the question and she answers with a one-word answer the ball is back in your court and you might be headed for the bleachers.一旦你提出质询，她用一个字回答这个球的答案是回到您的法院和你对领导的看台。
So you need a question that will elicit more than a one or two word answer.所以你需要一个问题，将引起超过一个或两个词答复。 That makes her dribble the ball a few seconds before passing it.这使得她在传递运球几秒钟。 Now, once you ask the question and get an answer, you have to be able to keep the conversation moving.现在，一旦你提出质询，并得到答案，你必须要能够保持对话前进。 Think of this like basketball, you can only hold the ball for so long without a penalty call, so talking to the ladies has to bounce back and forth in a fairly smooth manner.相信本如篮球，你只能保持这么久的球没有惩罚的呼吁，女士们交谈的反弹在相当平稳地来回。
Now, let's say you are at a party where you spot a lady that you want to meet….现在，假设你在一个聚会的地方，你可以看到一位女士想要满足...。 and you've said “Hi.” Let's take this scenario right from here… Ask her for an opinion about a subject or topic.和你说“你好。”让我们从这里...这种情况下有权要求增加一个主题或主题的意见她。 It can be as easy as saying, “This band is one of my favorites, what kinds of music (or bands) do you like?”它可以容易的话说，“这带是我的最爱，什么样的音乐类型（或乐队之一）你喜欢吗？”
You get the idea?你的想法？ Don't try to start a conversation by asking something like, “Do you know the people who arranged this party?” If you do you may well get a one word, yes or no, answer back and now you have to start all over.不要尝试类似的要求开始对话，“你知道谁安排的人，这个党？”如果你，你可能会得到一个字，有或没有，回答，现在，你必须从头开始。
Good Manners Will Pay Off For You 礼貌会获得回报为你
Something that really attracts women is a guy with proper manners, a true gentleman.真正吸引一些女性是一个应有的礼貌，一个真正的绅士的家伙。 Your confident charm and polite manners will make more waves and a better impression than attempting to be a player.你的自信魅力和礼貌的举止会更浪，比试图将一名球员一个更好的印象。 Guys who try to overplay their hands will only turn the women off.球员谁试图摸清他们的手，只会使妇女了。
Always smile when you ask a friendly question, and have your eyes on her face, not checking out her body.总是微笑当你问一个善意的问题，让你的眼睛在她的脸上，没有检查出她的身体。 If your girl likes what she sees, she will respond with a sentence or two.如果你喜欢的女孩看到她，她将响应一两句话。 Your mission is to be a gentleman, pay attention to her answer, and concentrate all your attention on her.你的任务将是一个绅士，注意她的回答，集中在她所有的注意力。
While conversation does seem to come a bit easier to women, they are often even more unsure than you are.虽然谈话似乎来容易一点的妇女，他们往往比你更不确定的。 Keep this in mind and let the knowledge boost your confidence.记住这一点，让知识，增强你的信心。
Another hint is to remember that it's flattering to most women for you to ask something about her or comment about her hairstyle or her jewelry.另一个线索是要记住，这是恭维你的大多数妇女问一些有关她或她的发型发表评论或她的首饰。 Sure, you can tell her that the dress she's wearing is hot, or her eyes are gorgeous, but those are what almost every other guy is trying for their opening.当然，你可以告诉她，她的打扮的穿着是热的，还是她的眼睛漂亮，但那些都是什么其他的几乎每一个男人对他们开放的尝试。 You definitely want to be just a bit different in your approach.你肯定想将只是你的做法有点不同。
It really isn't that hard to talk to women.这真的不是那么难女士谈话。 If you give your self some confidence, even it's the pretend kind, ask interesting questions and listen closely to the answers and don't make your moves too fast or too obvious you'll be miles ahead of most of the guys out there.如果你给你自己有信心，即使它是一种假装，提出有趣的问题，细心听取答案，不要让你的动作太快或明显英里你会先于大多数球员那里。
