By Lisa Sinclair由Lisa辛克莱尔

There she is.她来。 And she's gorgeous.而她的华丽。 You'd love to talk to her, to get to know her, to see if she's interested in you.你会喜欢她谈谈，去了解她，看看她对你感兴趣。

The problem is that you're sure you'll mess it up, say the wrong thing, say something offensive or just be plain old boring.问题是，你肯定你会搞砸了，说错了，说了一些进攻性或只是普通的旧无聊。 Embarrassment looms like it has so many times before.尴尬织机喜欢它有这么多遍。

Many guys hide behind safe and polite conversation, fearing that any flirting will result in outright, embarrassing rejection.许多人躲在安全和礼貌的谈话，担心会造成任何直接的调情，尴尬的拒绝。 Some guys just can't get past “hi.”有的人就是不能把过去的“喜”。

And lots more guys, I've seen it a million times, just look and then don't even try.和更多的球员，我已经看到了100万次，单看然后不甚至尝试。

Approaching a woman can be intimidating, even terrifying.走近一个女人可以恐吓，甚至是可怕的。 There is no single magic phrase that will work, so put that thought out of your head.没有单一的魔法短语，将工作，所以把这个想法你的脑海里消失。

On the other hand, the right attitude and some simple techniques can multiply your chances of getting the girl and getting her home.另一方面，正确的态度和一些简单的技术可以多得到的女孩，让她回家的机会。

Nothing is as sweet as a little confidence when you are attempting to impress a woman 没有什么比女人甜美作为一个小的信心，当您正试图打动

A smile, positive body language – these suggest that you are friendly and confident.一个微笑，积极的肢体语言 - 这表明你是友好和自信。 Do not overplay your hand and try to come across as Studley Dudley.不要夸大你的手，试图给人以斯塔德利达德利跨越。

We are talking about being friendly, polite and showing just the right amount of confidence.我们谈论的是友善，有礼貌，只是和适量的信心。 These also help put her at ease and create a warm and inviting atmosphere, which are prerequisites for any kind of rapport to develop.这也有助于把她安心，创造一个温暖，温馨的氛围，这是任何一种关系发展的先决条件。

Keep eye contact when walking toward her 保持目光接触，对她走路时

Breaking eye contact when you approach a woman sends the message that you are not feeling good about this situation.打破目光接触时你接近一个女人发出的信息是，你是不是对这种情况感到良好。

Let her know that you find her attractive by smiling and looking her in the eye while you move toward her.让她知道你找到她的面带微笑，看着她的眼睛，而你对她的移动吸引力。

Devote all your attention to what she is saying 把一切你注意她在说什么

A frequent complaint women have about men is that they just don't listen.一个经常抱怨女性对男性的是，他们就是不听。 Often the best way to往往是最好的办法 talk to women女士谈话 is to be quiet and listen.是要安静，听。 Pay careful attention to what she says, and give an honest and thoughtful response.请特别注意她说的话，给一个诚实，周到的反应。 You don't have to blurt out the first words that come into your head.你不必脱口而出你脑海中出现的第一个字。 It's ok to think about what she said for a moment before responding.它的确定想想她说了一会儿才回答。

Remember, when a woman feels that you don't really have an interest in her…..she is not going to have any interest in you.记住，当一个女人觉得你真的没有在她感兴趣... ..她是不会有任何利息。 To really要真正 attract women吸引女人 you have be a good listener.你是一个很好的倾听者。

Your tone and attitude can make you a dud instead of a stud 你的语气和态度可以使你的哑弹，而不是螺柱

The tone of your voice and your attitude can make you or break you with the ladies at your first critical approach.你的声音和你的态度，语调会让你或你第一次打破女士们，你批评的态度。 Watch how you come across and how you sound.观看你如何接触和你的声音。

You're looking for a relationship or an adventure, not negotiating a corporate merger or prosecuting a criminal trial.你在找关系或冒险，而不是谈判的企业合并或起诉的刑事审判。 Ease up on yourself and the woman in question, enjoy the moment, have fun, and do not take everything too seriously.放松对自己和有问题的女人时，享受的时刻，有乐趣，不要把所有的东西看得太重。

Leave her always desiring and wanting more from you 给她总是渴望和你想要更多

Don't talk too much about yourself.不要过多谈论自己了。 Many women appreciate a guy who is just a little mysterious and gives them a feeling of intrigue.很多女性欣赏的家伙谁是有点神秘，让他们有一个阴谋的感觉。 Let them know that there is plenty more to discover at a future time.让他们知道，有很多更是在未来某一时间发现。 Talking too much reveals too much information at the start, which kills any aspect of mystery and it also makes you look desperate which is not good at all.说得太多太一开始揭示的信息，它可以杀死任何神秘的方面，它也使你看起来绝望这是不好的。

Remember – In those first few moments, the woman whose interest you want to attract is evaluating you quickly.记住 - 最初的那几分钟，女人谁的利益是要吸引您快速评估。 Try some of these tips to get the feel of how to approach and talk to women successfully.尝试了其中一些方法来获得如何处理和谈话的妇女成功的感觉。

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