There are literally thousands of online dating and personals services to choose from, all claiming to be better than the next. 有成千上萬的網上約會和交友服務的選擇，都自稱是優於下。 When you're new to online dating it's confusing to say the least.當你到網上交友，新的混亂，至少可以說。 Standard features, available at almost all sites, are often presented as “unique,”  and some may very well be unique but are baffling to someone who's completely new to internet dating.標準功能，可在幾乎所有的網站，往往表現為“獨一無二”，有的很可能是獨一無二的，但令人困惑的人誰是完全新的網上約會。

To help you cut through the confusion, this Beginner's Guide explains the basics of online dating and personals services – how they work and importantly, what they all have in common.為了幫助你穿過混亂，這個初學者指南解釋了基本的網上約會和交友服務-他們如何工作，重要的是，他們都有著共同點。 When you know what's “standard” and what's not, it's easier to spot a genuine winner.當你知道什麼是“標準”，什麼不是，它更容易發現一個真正的贏家。

Is online dating for dating only? 是網上約會約會而已？ I'm looking for something more serious/casual 我在找一些更嚴重/休閒

At one time, online dating and personals services focused on one thing only – dating.有一段時間，網上約會和交友服務只集中在一件事 - 約會。 Today, you can go online to find friendship, a potential soulmate or marriage partner, even someone to expand your sexual horizons with, as well as casual or romantic dates.今天，你可以去網上找到友誼，一個潛在的心心相印或婚姻伴侶，甚至有人以擴大視野，與你的性，以及休閒或浪漫的日子。 What's more, members can usually connect on various levels within the same site.更何況，成員通常可以在不同層次可以在同一個站點。 For instance, at例如，在 Match.com Match.com you can look for friends as well as dates while over at你可以找朋友，以及為日期，而對在 Lavalife Lavalife you can participate in any or all of three communities set up for dating, relationships or sexual encounters.你可以參加任何一項或全部三個社區設立了約會，關係或性接觸。

How do members advertise themselves? 成員如何宣傳自己？

Members showcase themselves through profiles which can include photos, video and voice clips, and a mix of basic and freestyle information.委員展示自己，通過配置文件可以包括圖片，視頻和聲音剪輯，混音和自由泳的基本信息。 Profiles vary enormously from service to service in terms of detail, interest, style and features.概況千差萬別從服務到服務條款的細節，興趣，風格和特點。 For instance, some are very detailed but don't really give you a sense of what someone's like, while others are short on formal details but capture colorful insights into member's personalities.例如，有的很詳細，但沒有真正意義上的給你一個什麼人的樣子，有的則是在正式的細節，但短期捕捉豐富多彩的見解成員的性格。 The mother of all profiles is at eHarmony, taking at least an hour to complete!孩子的母親是在eHarmony的所有配置文件，以至少一個小時才能完成！ Consider the quality of profiles when choosing a dating site – the best profile is a profile that gives you the kind of information you'd like to have. (When it comes to writing your own profile, we have plenty of考慮型材的質量時，選擇一個交友網站-最好的配置文件是一個配置文件，為您提供了一種信息， 您想擁有的。（當談到編寫自己的個人資料，我們有充足的 tips for effective profiles 有效的配置文件的提示 .) 。）

How do members find their ideal match? 如何找到自己理想的匹配成員？

The top dating sites (see our最高的交友網站（見我們 Reviews評論 ) have developed excellent search tools that go to work to find people matching your personal “wish list” in seconds. ）已經開發出優秀的搜索工具，上班找不到人符合您個人的“願望清單”在幾秒鐘。 However, if you want to narrow the field from the get-go, there are countless specialty or但是，如果您想要縮小該領域從一開始走，有無數專業或 “niche” dating sites “利基”交友網站 for meeting people with particular interests, ethnicities, religious or political beliefs, physical characteristics and so on.為滿足人民的特殊利益，種族，宗教或政治信仰，身體特徵等。 You name it, there's a site to match.你的名字，有一個網站進行匹配。

How do members protect their privacy? 成員如何保護他們的隱私？

Members remain anonymous by using a nickname, or “username” and there's no danger of “real” information leaking out.會員保持匿名使用的暱稱，或“用戶名”和有沒有危險的“真實”的信息洩露出去。 Online dating and personals services are ferocious about guarding members' privacy – their business depends on it.網上約會和交友服務兇猛關於護衛成員的隱私 - 他們的業務依賴於它。 So, when dating site features include anonymous phone calls or text messaging (as所以，當交友網站的功能包括匿名電話或短信（如 Match.com Match.com does), you can believe that they really will be 100% anonymous.一樣），你可以相信他們真的會是100％無名氏。

Do I have to sign up and pay money to see what a service is like? 我一定要註冊並付錢，看看有什麼服務是怎樣的？

In my experience, first impressions made by the home page – simply view for free – are usually in line with what the service is like.根據我的經驗，第一印象所作的主頁 - 只需查看免費 - 通常是按照什麼服務是怎樣的。 Also, most of the better sites have a “take a tour” feature on their home page for a “member's view” of the site with screenshots of key pages and features.  That said, almost all dating sites are free to join – usually taking just a few minutes.此外，大多數的更好的網站有一個“採取一遊”的特點在其主頁上的“成員的意見”的網站，用截圖的主要網頁和功能。儘管如此，幾乎所有的交友網站可自由加入 - 通常是拿只需幾分鐘。 It's a good idea to take advantage of this and take a really good look around several to find one that really feels right for you.這是一個好主意，利用這一點，需要好好看一看周圍幾個真正找到一個真正適合你的感覺。

Can I try out services for free? 我可以免費試用的服務？

Absolutely.當然可以。 Free membership is standard at almost every online dating and personals service.免費會員是在幾乎每一個標準的網上約會和交友服務。 Exceptions are usually very specialized services that will be going the extra mile for members and laying down money indicates you have serious intentions!例外的是通常是非常專業的服務，將去加倍努力為會員，放下錢表示您有嚴重的用心！ However, even these tend to offer free trials.然而，即使這些往往提供免費試用。

What can I do for free? 我能做些什麼免費的嗎？

At most sites, you can do the following for free: sign up, browse through profiles, post a profile yourself, use search and matchmaking tools, take personality tests, and have some limited communication with other members.在大多數網站，你可以做以下免費：註冊後，瀏覽檔案，發布自己的配置文件，使用搜索和招商引資的工具，以人格的測試，並且有一定的限制與其他成員溝通。 As a free member, communication options usually take the form of preset flirty messages, icons, “winks” and so on, which don't let you say much, if anything, of your own.為免費會員，通訊選項通常採取的形式預設輕浮的消息，圖標，“眨眼”等，讓你不說了，如果有的話，你自己的。 However, take a close look at what's on offer – some sites,不過，以仔細看最新優惠 - 某些網站， Lavalife Lavalife included, are much more generous than others in the way of free commnication options.包括在內，是比別人更慷慨的方式自由commnication選項。

When do I have to pay? 當我要付錢？

You'll need to subscribe to be able to communicate in full with other members, so it's up to you and ultimately depends on how eager you are to get talking with other members.您需要訂閱才能在充分溝通與其他成員，因此它取決於你，最終取決於你是多麼渴望得到與其他成員交談。 many people like to subscribe and connect with people right away while others prefer to flirt with the limited free communications and check the interest is mutual before subscribing.很多人喜歡訂閱和馬上就可以與人則喜歡調情與有限的免費通訊和檢查利益是相互的，方可決定選購。

What do I get as a paying member, a subscriber? 我會得到什麼是付費會員，訂閱？

The main difference between being a free member and a subscriber is that your subscription opens up the communications door: you can communicate as much as you like with other members.主要的區別是一個自由會員及訂戶是你訂閱的通訊門打開了：你可以溝通，就像你喜歡的其他成員。 The range of communications options available to subscribers varies from site to site.該系列的通信選項提供給用戶不同的網站之間。 Email and instant messaging are the norm, some services also have onsite mail and chat rooms, while電子郵件和即時消息都是標準的，現場也有一些服務的郵件和聊天室，而 Match.com Match.com outdoes just about everyone with enough options to satisfy any communications junkie.高出幾乎每個人有足夠的選擇，滿足任何通訊迷。

How much do subscriptions cost? 訂閱費用多少？

On average, subscriptions cost about $20 to $25 dollars a month – considerably less than a single night at the bar – or less if you subscribe for several months at once.平均而言，訂閱費用約為 20元至每月25美元 - 遠低於一個晚上在酒吧 - 或更少，如果你訂閱了數個月一次。 Most services often have special offers and free trials available.大多數服務往往有特殊的優惠和免費試用可用。 As a free member you can be advised of these by email.為免費會員，你可以通過電子郵件告知這些。 Specialist services tend to cost more, because they're keen to ensure a certain level of commitment and/or social status among members or simply because they do more on your behalf.專家服務往往花費更多，因為他們希望確保一定水平的承諾和/或成員之間的社會地位或僅僅是因為他們做更多的代表你。 For instance, eHarmony, which offers scientific matchmaking designed to help you find your soulmate, costs about $50例如，eHarmony公司，它提供了科學的牽線搭橋，旨在幫助你尋找你的知己，成本約 50美元
a month.一個月。

Can't I find a totally free dating site? 我無法找到一個完全免費的交友網站？

There's no such thing as a totally free dating service, though many promote themselves as such.有沒有這樣的東西作為一個完全免費的交友服務，雖然許多宣傳自己是這樣。 Remember, online dating and personals services are in business – got to be making money!記住，網上約會和交友服務在業務 - 一定是在賺錢！ The truth is, they're like almost every other service: free, up to a point.事實是，他們就像幾乎所有的其他服務：免費的，到一個點。

Do these services practice any kind of quality control? 做這些服務的實踐任何一種質量控制？

Larger services have the resources to employ teams of people dedicated to weeding out offensive and inappropriate members and profiles.較大的資源服務隊聘用的人致力於淘汰進攻和不恰當的成員和配置文件。 For instance,例如， Match.com Match.com (the friendship and dating giant) rejects about 3000 applicants and 2000 profiles a month and （友誼和交友巨人）拒絕有關申請 3000和2000年每月概況 eHarmony eHarmony公司 (for serious relationships and marriage) rejects about one out five applicants. （嚴重的關係和婚姻）拒絕了約一五申請人。 Credibility keeps their industry alive and thriving.誠信一直活著，他們的行業蓬勃發展。 Some services also use cost as a quality control tool, pricing themselves high to deter undesirable members.有些服務還使用成本作為質量控制工具，定價高，以防止自己不受歡迎的成員。

I'm gay. 我是同性戀。 What are my options? 我有哪些選擇？

Most online dating and personals services are set up for both hetro and same-sex relationships.多數網上約會和交友服務都設置了兩個 hetro和同性關係。 You simply select which sex you're interested in meeting: men, women or both.你只要選擇你感興趣的性別會議：男人，女人或兩者兼而有之。 If you prefer to be on the same page as everyone else from the outset, there are numerous services specifically for the gay community of which the most popular are Manline (part of the same group of services as Lavalife), OutPersonals (part of the FriendFinder group) and Planet Out.如果您希望在同一頁上其他人一樣從一開始，有很多服務，特別對於同性戀群體，其中最流行的是Manline（屬於同一組服務 Lavalife），OutPersonals（部分交友組）和行星出。

Is it safe to use an online personals service? 是否可以安全使用網上交友服務？

Online dating services do their part by protecting your anonymity and weeding out people who threaten the quality and credibility of their services.網上約會服務盡自己的一份通過保護你的匿名性和淘汰的人誰威脅的質量和信譽的服務。 Beyond that, it's up to you.除此之外，它取決於你。 Exercise common sense, follow some down-to-earth運動常識，遵循一些紮實 online dating safety tips網上約會安全提示 and your online dating experiences will be safe as well as enjoyable.和您的網上約會的經驗將是安全的，以及愉快。

Which are better: large services or smaller ones? 哪個更好：大服務或更小的呢？

If you're looking for a very specific sort of person, a smaller, specialist service is best because everyone will be more or less your type.如果你正在尋找一個很具體的樣的人，一個較小的，專家服務是最好的，因為每個人都會或多或少的類型。 Otherwise, your best bet is to go big.否則，你最好是去大。 The biggest names in online personals have perfected their act and offer genuinely unique and superior features with huge memberships to boot.最大的名字在網上交友有完善自己的行為，並提供真正獨特和優越的功能和巨大的成員進行引導。 In other words, they're large and popular for a reason – people like what they do, and they do it very well.換句話說，他們是大受歡迎的原因 - 人們喜歡他們做的，他們做的非常好。 For the most part, the rest are wannabe copycats with much smaller memberships.在大多數情況下，其餘的崇拜者模仿者與成員小得多。 You're as well to go for an “original” and enjoy the benefit of hundreds of thousands, if not millions, of members to find your match in.你也去了“原始”，享受的好處和幾十萬，如果不是數百萬的會員尋找配對英寸

Will I receive lots of junk email if I sign up? 我會收到大量的垃圾郵件，如果我註冊？

I join a lot of services for my reviews and have never received any spam, only mail which I've asked for – details of special offers, new features and other “customer service” messages – by checking boxes on the sign-up pages.我參加了很多的服務，為我的評語，並沒有收到任何垃圾郵件，郵件只有我自找的 - 細節的特別優惠，新功能和其他“客戶服務”的消息 - 通過檢查盒上的註冊頁面。 Watch out though: at some services these boxes are pre-checked and you'll need to uncheck them to avoid receiving mail, although if you miss them you can easily cancel further messages at the site or by clicking a link in the mail.不過當心：在一些服務這些框前檢查，你就需要取消他們避免接收郵件，但如果你想念他們，你可以很容易地取消進一步的消息在現場或通過點擊一個鏈接的郵件。 I can't speak for obviously low-end services – I pass them by!我不能發言，明顯的低端服務 - 我通過他們了！ – but suggest you think twice before giving them your email address. - 但建議你三思而後給他們你的電子郵件地址。

Your next step is to find an online dating service that's right for you .你的下一個步驟是找到一個在線約會服務最適合你 。 Our我們的 Tips for Choosing an Online Dating Service提示選擇一個網上約會服務 explains the main areas in which dating sites differ so you can decide which features matter to you most.解釋的主要領域，其中交友網站不同，因此你可以決定哪些功能問題給您最。 You can also check out my您還可以檢查出我 Reviews of the Top Online Dating Sites回顧了前網上約會站點 for a ready-made shortlist of the top online dating services!一個現成的名單的前網上約會服務！

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